But it’s a very passive way to handle your support network, and you’re selling yourself short. By being less passive and more active with your support network, you’re taking control of your career and accelerating your ability to grow. You will get more opportunities and faster growth if you actively pursue a strategic support network. So here’s what I’m covering today. Number one. What makes a support network strategic, and why that’s important. Number two. The big three pillars of a powerful and strategic support network. Number three. Where is the best place to start with all of this? Lots of good stuff in this week’s video, so let’s start with what makes a support network strategic and why is that important. So strategic is kind of a fancy-shmancy intimidating word that people use that really just means staying aligned with a purpose or a goal. And I don’t mean your life purpose or whatever, I’m talking about a purpose.

So if your purpose or your goal is to get a dream home in a specific neighborhood, what strategic actions do you need to take to get you there? For example, get clarity on what makes a dream home a dream home for you. Hire the most connected agent in the area. Send out feelers or plant seeds with people you already know who live in the neighborhood. Right? Those are three strategic ways to go after getting your dream home. So to get strategic with your support network for your career, you must know what your goal is. Right? Get promoted to a specific position, find a job at a specific company, et cetera, whatever that is for you. And then, your purposefully build a support system to get you where you want to go so you can get there faster, and without making as many missteps along the way. Now let’s talk about what goes into this strategic support network. And for that I had developed the three big pillars. They literally spell the word big, so dead simple for you to remember. And the three big pillars are backup, influence, and guidance. Now the first pillar is called backup because it’s for when you need backup, when you need a wing man or someone you trust to kick your butt to do something.

Maybe someone to come to an event with you, or maybe just an apathetic ear to listen and understand what you are going through after you’ve had a hard day or an embarrassing moment. Or even a completely unbiased voice to push you to do something that you’re struggling with. So this can be people like close friends, a family member, a work buddy to go to an event with, or even a coach as an unbiased voice. The key is to have someone who’s on your side and has your best interests at heart. The next pillar is influence. And these are the people who have influence over you achieving the goal you’re going after. And there may be lots of people in this case, but you’re going to go after the top ones that are the most meaningful ones to you. Some will be key people you work with or who work for you, some will be senior people or seasoned people who could influence the decision-makers for what you’re going after, and some might be even a critic of your work.

Right? In all cases, you want these people to see you at your best. And the final pillar is guidance. These are the people who help you avoid the potholes, and help you understand what you need to do to reach the goal you’re going after. Right? These are your mentors or even a career coach. I know that sounds like a lot of people, and it might be, but once you have it all planned out and you know where your priorities are, a lot of this can be integrated into what you do every day. So the next obvious question is, where is the best place to start? And I’m going to give you an ambiguous answer. I recommend starting with your biggest need. So you have your goal and you’ve identified what you need to do to get there, and decide what you need within those three big pillars of your support network, and then you can start. You can start with your biggest gap, i.e. you need to get a mentor to guide you on the major skills that you need that you’re going after.

Or instead of going after your biggest need, you can decide, “You know what? I want to build up some momentum by tackling some of the smaller stuff first.” I don’t really think you can go wrong. As long as you keep your support network top of mind and are actively and purposefully strengthening it, you’re doing great. If you want to learn more about building a strong support network and creating a powerful career plan or a career that you love, then get my free download Get the Career You Want, the six step by step strategies to confidently making your perfect career move.

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One common grievance that I hear is the notion that I’m stuck at a crossroads and I don’t know what to do. I don’t know which direction to go. I don’t know where to focus my efforts. It is completely understandable because there is a big decision to be made and it is an important decision, and for some, maybe for you, it is a scary decision. It’s a scary decision and an important decision with varied and unpredictable outcomes. So you may be feeling a little bit overwhelmed or paralyzed in asking the question, “what should I do next?” without clarity of the root of the problem. But the thing is, wisdom comes not from getting the right answers, but you were conditioned to do that since grade school, where you’re conditioned to find out the right answers.

You’re conditioned to believe that if you don’t have the answers, then where do you go from here? If you don’t have the answers, that it’s hard to figure out what the next step is. You’re conditioned to believe that through school, through parenting, through media, that you got to find the right answers. But wisdom really comes from asking the right questions. Put in the comments below. What are your go-to questions that you ask yourself regularly when considering your career path or the next step of your career path. Start by asking what are the upsides to this particular career choice? And usually you’re the expert at this one because it’s always easy to figure out the desirability of a certain action. It’s easy to know “what are the benefits for you?” What are things that you’ll find pleasurable and enjoyable going down that career path? So start with that question.

What are the upsides to that career path? Then from that question, transition to the next question of “what could go wrong” if I choose this career path. This question is usually one that you might struggle with because it’s not natural for us to think this way. It’s easy for us to think what benefits me from going down this career path. But what could go wrong? You might need a little bit of assistance.

You’re probably conditioned to be irrationally emotional or optimistic about the career path you’re choosing. This question requires a little bit of assistance because you weren’t conditioned to answer questions of that nature of what could go wrong. So seek assistance in answering this particular question and that could be simply getting feedback from someone you trust about it. Come up with answers and try and going on it on your own first. “What could go wrong in this career path,” try coming up with the answers on your own first and then get feedback from someone you trust, someone who has gone down that career path or a similar career path and ask them if this is reasonable.

If you are being overly optimistic or overly emotional about the answers to these questions and be open to that feedback. And from that last question, then transition to the next one. Ask yourself, “can I live with the downsides of this career path?” This is the most important question you could ask when choosing which path to go down. And that’s because this particular question gives you insight into the root problem and expands the number of possible solutions that are out there for you.

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We can use our value to rise our rates, yeah right. for those of you don’t know who I’m my name is Kayoubi, I’m a music producer. And I have been creating music for 7 years. before we get to the main topic I want we have the same definition so I try to open up Google.. so what I found is.. Value.. the regard that wait.. of something and I want to highlight on the word “worth” here you see human is different you mean we have we have different set of skill we different set of value you may be good at creating orchestral music while I may be good in mixing or mastering and as we know that human is social being that means we need each other and that means at some point I might be need your help to create me an orchestral music and..

Other times that you might need in my help – mixing and mastering for your music and also there are lots of composers out there who are just like us the question will be how to differentiate – to you, me, and other composers out there? The answer is Value I will give you a brief example let’s say that there are two composers. Composer A & Composer B Composer a, they will charge you for.. let say $200 for each (of) music And composer B will charge you like a thousand dollar for each music. But they were they were there is $800 of gap between composer A and composer B. Composer A only provide you the music, which means you only get the music, that’s all. Whilst the Composer B they will provide you like music and 2 times of revisions, mixing and mastering. Let’s say that you have budgets so which composer you would choose? If I if I was the client and I would choose Composer B even though it is higher than Composer A but I have my own reasons Firstly I I don’t have to find another mixing and mastering engineer.

Secondly I don’t have to worry or concern about the changes that I will make in the future because in the beginning I already know that I only have two revisions so for me the value of composer B is higher than composer A Even though the price is higher than composer A the value itself doesn’t necessarily to be a set of skill. It can be something that you can or willingly to offer to your client. It can be.. even your experience in the past maybe you have partnered with majors companies before so.. I usually do that trick but I… I provide with I provide my client with legit portfolio as well The next thing you need to do is telling the people.

Let say that I’m your future client how do I know that you are composer and make music if you never told me . I wouldn’t know so you still need to do some marketing stuff. Let people know who you are and what you can do. Your capabilities. As for the – marketing stuff.. it can be another topic for another video so that’s all for me I hope this can be something useful for you the conclusion is there are two things that you can do to step up your game firstly you need to know about yourself and also about your core value secondly you need to speak and let the people know who you are what you can do So that’s it, Kayoubi signing off the air and see you on the next video. (Consider subscribing guys :D) And this time for real. BOOM! .

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if you’re new here my name is Courtney I’m a spiritual mentor and life purpose coach today we’re talking about why you aren’t having success right now whether it’s in your career or your business and I know this title of this video sounds a little bit harsh but that’s really what this video is about is giving a spiritual perspective on that and as we move into the New Age there’s going to be a lot of paradigm shifts and one of them is how we go about creating financial abundance and success in our lives so I’m going to talk a little bit about what’s going on if you’re not having success especially if it’s in your career or business right now and what you can do to apply this knowledge to actually create that lasting success that you are seeking so if that sounds good to you please stay tuned and if you are new here and you would like to see more videos on topics like this one I would love to have you as a subscriber so your higher self is always trying to pull you into alignment with your highest path and your purpose for this life so it’s always trying to bring you the right people circumstances insights everything that you need in order to really live your purpose and when it feels like it’s not doing that it’s actually because we’re resisting it or not listening to it in some way but the reality is that your Higher Self the universe whatever you want to call it it’s always working with you to make this happen that also means that the universe will not allow you to have success with something that is not in alignment with your sole purpose with what you came here on this earth to do so this means that if you’re maybe offering some sort of service that isn’t quite in alignment with your true desires but it seems like oh this seems a little bit more acceptable my friends and family might like this better or I think that maybe this will make me more money than if I did what I really want to do you’ll realize that it won’t because the universe is not going to bring you clients when you’re doing that because that would steer you right off your path of doing what you’re actually meant to do if you have your life purpose over here and then you’re settling for your second best career over here and you’re getting all these clients and you’re making all this money doing this then that’s gonna you know totally steer you in the wrong direction so there is a function to having a difficult time with this sort of second-best career that you’re choosing and actually the same goes for how much you charge for the services that you’re offering so if you are offering some sort of service but you keep lowering the prices because you think that’s the only way that people are going to pay you for your work what you’re going to find is even if this is your life purpose even if this is your sole work you’re still not going to be able to attract clients even though you’re offering it for a super low price point and this is because if the universe was bringing you clients for that that would only reinforce the subconscious or the conscious belief that yes if I lower my prices more and more than I get more clients and that would be a problem if you are getting clients when you are charging low amounts of money for your services because that couldn’t sustain you in the long run therefore making you have to maybe pick something else maybe you decide to you know switch careers and then you aren’t doing your sole work because it couldn’t financially sustain you so this is the new paradigm as we move into the New Age the Age of Aquarius there are a lot of shifts in the way that we are going to be able to sustain financial success business success career success and we’re moving away from this conflict between what do I really want to do versus what is going to make me money and make me successful we’re finding that really the only way to create success and financial abundance is to really do what you want to do to really do your sole work so in order to have this lasting success you really need to get honest with yourself about what you really want don’t worry about what people are going to think about you don’t worry about your family is going to understand you have to really be honest with yourself because that thing is always going to be there and I think on some level we unconsciously sabotage ourselves in our careers when we’re not doing exactly what we want to do either so I think that’s really important to be aware of as we shift into this new age that the way that we’re going about success is going to be changing a lot so really tune in to what you really really want to do and understand that wouldn’t your in that energy of being totally in alignment with your sole purpose your vibration is attracting the people and the resources and the money and everything that you need in order to live that purpose so I hope that made sense.

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Today is a great day for a physician assistant FAQ frequently asked questions now thank you everyone for responding I have a lot of material today so this is going to be a two-part video so be sure to give me a thumbs up and subscribe to my channel so you don’t miss out on part 2 we’re gonna dive right into this first question personal statement tips and your tips and my experience in that process so personal statement tips think about it the admissions office is getting thousands of applications a day are they going to read your whole essay probably not so most importantly nail the hook now the hook is the first few sentences of your essay so start off with a quote make it interesting draw them into your paper so they will read the whole essay and invite you in for a POA school interview now your personal statement is selling your selfie you want to tell a good story use real people real experiences adjectives emotions make your story seem larger than life be yourself tell the truth don’t make stuff up but present yourself in a way that missions is thinking hey this person seems pretty cool I want them like them back I want to meet them in person and hopefully offer you a spot in the PA program as far as interview tips I have a previous video I’ll link it below going in detail about that and I experienced in the process that is a great video idea so I will say that for the feature I be asked about finding shadowing opportunities this can be kind of difficult an easy way is volunteering at the hospital hospitals always need more volunteers and it looks amazing absolutely amazing on your application you have volunteer departments that allow you to have hands-on experience if I got a lot of my hours in the ER and also in the pharmacy and the other thing you can do is ask your doctor I asked my ortho hey I’m your patient is it okay if I shadow you and it was one of my favorite opportunities something else that looks great do some research doing a medical mission trip you’re changing lives in third-world countries that’s usually where they’re located again life-changing experience really exposes to you and shows you how lucky and blessed you are to live and have such great privileges in our country and also looks great on the resume lastly I would email reach out to random small clinics in the area you’d be surprised a lot of them are pretty willing to take on students or let you shadow because again as a provider I love telling people about my profession and getting more people into medicine rebecca asks about ways to improve and stand out as a reallocate so I got into PA school on my second try most people I talked to it’s pretty common to get in on your second try you’re competing against thousands of people the class I applied to I believe had five thousand applications which is pretty increasing pants what I would recommend is in your application prove to the school especially if you’re applying the same program and how your application is different than last year what steps you took to improve and try to bump up your GPA try to prove to them that your package is different than last year and that you should get a second chance and getting invite to the program this is a great question Corey asked about note taking techniques / time management etc survival tactics one thing I learned the hard way is that they go through a gazillion slides in an hour which is crazy but realistically it’s not uncommon to have a hundred slides per one hour lecture so for me there was no way I could handwrite that fast so my top tip is probably to have a computer I found it easiest to type on the bottom of the slides and trying my best to review the slides that same diaper if not the next day so it’s fresh in my brain something out some points you remember you’re in school from 8 to 5 you’re already exhausted and you’re going to go home and study for a few more hours and be more exhausted so if you’re not retaining any information it’s better to take a 30-minute break recoup go on a walk so knowing when to take a break is probably my biggest tip for survival as far as time management making a checklist it feels so satisfying to check things off the list that way you have a list of daily goals of course you’re probably not going to get through all them but just knowing how to plan out today how did partition your time is super helpful in time and management another big tip of mine is to just keep looking forward to the future my friends in PA school will make a joke how many sleeps until the next break so five sleeps until Christmas vacation two sleeps to the weekend just something fun to look at so remember how lucky you are to be in school and that you’re chosen out of thousands of people so don’t worry he got through the worst of it getting into school the end is near same brand asks about how to beef up your GPA most efficiently post-grad so for PA school minimum needing to be above of course you don’t want to be just at the minimum try your best for a As so I would say anything that’s below a B you definitely want to retake things like Anatomy med term that’s gonna be super helpful in PA school anything that’s borderline B B+ I would probably retake as well to boost up your GPA so it’s really important to have a strong foundation in anatomy in microbiology medical terminology you can even take some farm classes to the show that you’re getting a jumpstart into the PA school curriculum this is my last question of the day is how to deal with anxiety now PA school is going to be one of the most stressful experiences of your life it was definitely super stressful for me and remember you’re not alone there are a lot of people who ended up going just temporarily on anti-anxiety medications or seeking counseling does not mean you’re crazy it’s actually okay and healthy to go out and get help so again if you feel like this is you it is not uncommon and it’s important for you and for your sanity to do that what I did to deal with anxiety is to make sure to always do something that makes me happy I did continue to teach figure skating part time just a few hours a week you know it was crazy to work during PA school but in my mind it was better to work three or four hours a week teaching figure skating and doing something I love rather than spend two to three hours staring at a textbook not rotating any information wanting to throw my textbooks out the window other things people like to do yoga hot yoga dancing music writing any type of hobby that you still love just remember to take time to do it and then I think that really helps was just getting away from school just going home on the weekends hanging out with non PA school friends i love-love-love on my PA school friends but one role that we would joke around about is getting together not talking about PA school not talking about tests or studying anything stressful we wouldn’t even have this joke if you talk about it you gotta take a shot so just try not to talk about stressful things and try to keep things light hearted hanging out with friends not frumpy a school or family from home just to you know just don’t you that’s how school is going just keeping your mind off of it just staying calm most schools also offer fun things to do they may have something like intramurals a great way to meet up a friend another program to the school and get some energy and endorphins out and just relax so that’s all the time we have today for these frequently asked questions about PA school and the PA life stay tuned to part two of the video where I answer my questions and see you guys next time

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I want to discuss with you this afternoon why you’re going to fail to have a great career. (Laughter) I’m an economist. I do dismal. End of the day, it’s ready for dismal remarks. I only want to talk to those of you who want a great career. I know some of you have already decided you want a good career.

You’re going to fail, too. (Laughter) Because — goodness, you’re all cheery about failing. (Laughter) Canadian group, undoubtedly. (Laughter) Those trying to have good careers are going to fail, because, really, good jobs are now disappearing. There are great jobs and great careers, and then there are the high-workload, high-stress, bloodsucking, soul-destroying kinds of jobs, and practically nothing in-between. So people looking for good jobs are going to fail. I want to talk about those looking for great jobs, great careers, and why you’re going to fail. First reason is that no matter how many times people tell you, “If you want a great career, you have to pursue your passion, you have to pursue your dreams, you have to pursue the greatest fascination in your life,” you hear it again and again, and then you decide not to do it. It doesn’t matter how many times you download Steven J.’s Stanford commencement address, you still look at it and decide not to do it. I’m not quite sure why you decide not to do it. You’re too lazy to do it. It’s too hard. You’re afraid if you look for your passion and don’t find it, you’ll feel like you’re an idiot, so then you make excuses about why you’re not going to look for your passion.

They are excuses, ladies and gentlemen. We’re going to go through a whole long list — your creativity in thinking of excuses not to do what you really need to do if you want to have a great career. So, for example, one of your great excuses is: (Sigh) “Well, great careers are really and truly, for most people, just a matter of luck. So I’m going to stand around, I’m going to try to be lucky, and if I’m lucky, I’ll have a great career. If not, I’ll have a good career.” But a good career is an impossibility, so that’s not going to work. Then, your other excuse is, “Yes, there are special people who pursue their passions, but they are geniuses. They are Steven J. I’m not a genius. When I was five, I thought I was a genius, but my professors have beaten that idea out of my head long since.” (Laughter) “And now I know I am completely competent.” Now, you see, if this was 1950, being completely competent — that would have given you a great career. But guess what? This is almost 2012, and saying to the world, “I am totally, completely competent,” is damning yourself with the faintest of praise.

And then, of course, another excuse: “Well, I would do this, I would do this, but, but — well, after all, I’m not weird. Everybody knows that people who pursue their passions are somewhat obsessive. A little strange. Hmm? Hmm? OK? You know, a fine line between madness and genius. “I’m not weird. I’ve read Steven J.’s biography. Oh my goodness — I’m not that person. I am nice. I am normal. I’m a nice, normal person, and nice, normal people — don’t have passion.” (Laughter) “Ah, but I still want a great career. I’m not prepared to pursue my passion, so I know what I’m going to do, because I have a solution. I have a strategy.

It’s the one Mommy and Daddy told me about. Mommy and Daddy told me that if I worked hard, I’d have a good career. So, if you work hard and have a good career, if you work really, really, really hard, you’ll have a great career. Doesn’t that, like, mathematically make sense?” Hmm. Not. But you’ve managed to talk yourself into that. You know what? Here’s a little secret: You want to work? You want to work really, really, really hard? You know what? You’ll succeed. The world will give you the opportunity to work really, really, really, really hard. But, are you so sure that that’s going to give you a great career, when all the evidence is to the contrary? So let’s deal with those of you who are trying to find your passion.

You actually understand that you really had better do it, never mind the excuses. You’re trying to find your passion — (Sigh) and you’re so happy. You found something you’re interested in. “I have an interest! I have an interest!” You tell me. You say, “I have an interest!” I say, “That’s wonderful! And what are you trying to tell me?” “Well, I have an interest.” I say, “Do you have passion?” “I have an interest,” you say.

“Your interest is compared to what?” “Well, I’m interested in this.” “And what about the rest of humanity’s activities?” “I’m not interested in them.” “You’ve looked at them all, have you?” “No. Not exactly.” Passion is your greatest love. Passion is the thing that will help you create the highest expression of your talent. Passion, interest — it’s not the same thing. Are you really going to go to your sweetie and say, “Marry me! You’re interesting.” (Laughter) Won’t happen. Won’t happen, and you will die alone. (Laughter) What you want, what you want, what you want, is passion. It is beyond interest. You need 20 interests, and then one of them, one of them might grab you, one of them might engage you more than anything else, and then you may have found your greatest love, in comparison to all the other things that interest you, and that’s what passion is.

I have a friend, proposed to his sweetie. He was an economically rational person. He said to his sweetie, “Let us marry. Let us merge our interests.” (Laughter) Yes, he did. “I love you truly,” he said. “I love you deeply. I love you more than any other woman I’ve ever encountered. I love you more than Mary, Jane, Susie, Penelope, Ingrid, Gertrude, Gretel — I was on a German exchange program then. I love you more than –” All right. She left the room halfway through his enumeration of his love for her. After he got over his surprise at being, you know, turned down, he concluded he’d had a narrow escape from marrying an irrational person. Although, he did make a note to himself that the next time he proposed, it was perhaps not necessary to enumerate all of the women he had auditioned for the part.

(Laughter) But the point stands. You must look for alternatives so that you find your destiny, or are you afraid of the word “destiny”? Does the word “destiny” scare you? That’s what we’re talking about. And if you don’t find the highest expression of your talent, if you settle for “interesting,” what the hell ever that means, do you know what will happen at the end of your long life? Your friends and family will be gathered in the cemetery, and there beside your gravesite will be a tombstone, and inscribed on that tombstone it will say, “Here lies a distinguished engineer, who invented Velcro.” But what that tombstone should have said, in an alternative lifetime, what it should have said if it was your highest expression of talent, was, “Here lies the last Nobel Laureate in Physics, who formulated the Grand Unified Field Theory and demonstrated the practicality of warp drive.” (Laughter) Velcro, indeed! (Laughter) One was a great career.

One was a missed opportunity. But then, there are some of you who, in spite of all these excuses, you will find, you will find your passion. And you’ll still fail. You’re going to fail, because — because you’re not going to do it, because you will have invented a new excuse, any excuse to fail to take action, and this excuse, I’ve heard so many times: “Yes, I would pursue a great career, but, I value human relationships — (Laughter) more than accomplishment.

I want to be a great friend. I want to be a great spouse. I want to be a great parent, and I will not sacrifice them on the altar of great accomplishment.” (Laughter) What do you want me to say? Now, do you really want me to say now, tell you, “Really, I swear I don’t kick children.” (Laughter) Look at the worldview you’ve given yourself. You’re a hero no matter what. And I, by suggesting ever so delicately that you might want a great career, must hate children.

I don’t hate children. I don’t kick them. Yes, there was a little kid wandering through this building when I came here, and no, I didn’t kick him. (Laughter) Course, I had to tell him the building was for adults only, and to get out. He mumbled something about his mother, and I told him she’d probably find him outside anyway. Last time I saw him, he was on the stairs crying. (Laughter) What a wimp.

(Laughter) But what do you mean? That’s what you expect me to say. Do you really think it’s appropriate that you should actually take children and use them as a shield? You know what will happen someday, you ideal parent, you? The kid will come to you someday and say, “I know what I want to be. I know what I’m going to do with my life.” You are so happy. It’s the conversation a parent wants to hear, because your kid’s good in math, and you know you’re going to like what comes next. Says your kid, “I have decided I want to be a magician. I want to perform magic tricks on the stage.” (Laughter) And what do you say? You say, you say, “That’s risky, kid. Might fail, kid. Don’t make a lot of money at that, kid.

I don’t know, kid, you should think about that again, kid. You’re so good at math, why don’t you –” The kid interrupts you and says, “But it is my dream. It is my dream to do this.” And what are you going to say? You know what you’re going to say? “Look kid. I had a dream once, too, but — But –” So how are you going to finish the sentence with your “but”? “But. I had a dream too, once, kid, but I was afraid to pursue it.” Or are you going to tell him this: “I had a dream once, kid.

But then, you were born.” (Laughter) (Applause) Do you really want to use your family, do you really ever want to look at your spouse and your kid, and see your jailers? There was something you could have said to your kid, when he or she said, “I have a dream.” You could have said — looked the kid in the face and said, “Go for it, kid! Just like I did.” But you won’t be able to say that, because you didn’t.

So you can’t. (Laughter) And so the sins of the parents are visited on the poor children. Why will you seek refuge in human relationships as your excuse not to find and pursue your passion? You know why. In your heart of hearts, you know why, and I’m being deadly serious. You know why you would get all warm and fuzzy and wrap yourself up in human relationships. It is because you are — you know what you are. You’re afraid to pursue your passion. You’re afraid to look ridiculous. You’re afraid to try. You’re afraid you may fail. Great friend, great spouse, great parent, great career. Is that not a package? Is that not who you are? How can you be one without the other? But you’re afraid. And that’s why you’re not going to have a great career.

Unless — “unless,” that most evocative of all English words — “unless.” But the “unless” word is also attached to that other, most terrifying phrase, “If only I had …” “If only I had …” If you ever have that thought ricocheting in your brain, it will hurt a lot. So, those are the many reasons why you are going to fail to have a great career. Unless — Unless. Thank you. (Applause) .

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– I do have a lot of, I know, Millennials, and young people asking me, you know, Dan, how do I pick the right career for my life? And I believe that picking the right career is probably one of the most important decisions that you’ll ever make, because when you pick the wrong career, you can waste a lot of time, and years sometimes, if you ever had this experience, you pick a major in school, and then you study that for a few months, maybe even a couple years, you’re like, you know what, actually, I don’t like this subject that much. It’s because my friends told me I should take this, or my mom and dad told me I should take this, but actually, I hated this, I don’t like the subject, I don’t like the school, I don’t like what I’m studying, I don’t think I’m going to have a career, on this particular path, and then you switch.

And they try something else, and you’re like, no that’s not quite what it is yet, and they switch again, in between you’re wasting a lot of valuable time. So, when it comes to picking a career, let me share with you my own experience. Now, I wish I could tell you that, this is, I got here, because this is exactly how I envisioned myself and what I’m going to do. It’s not like that at all, because in the very beginning, all I wanted to do was to provide for my mom, because when my dad when my dad went bankrupt, with over a million dollars in debt, he could no longer send us money.

He was in Hong Kong back then, so I’m the only child in my family, I had to take care of my mom, so, all I wanted to do, forget about career, forget about finding my path, I just wanted to make some money, so that I can eat, so that we can have food on the table, that was it. So, fast forward today, I have to say I have the greatest job in the world.

I get to work when I want, where I want, with whom I want. Having such a great life style, being able to, not just materialistic things, but everything that I have, right. That I’m able to impact so many people’s lives, as a global educator. Now back then, it didn’t start off like this, so I believe to find the right career, number one, the very first piece of advice I want to give you is, if you’re a young person, and you are not so sure what is the perfect career for you, it means that you have not tried enough things. Because it’s like sports, how do you know what sports you would excel in, if you haven’t played enough? So let’s say you’ve only played basketball your whole life. You’re like, you know what? Maybe I’m a pretty good basketball player, but maybe you’re only five foot five. And you thought, you know what? This is what I like to do, maybe this is my career.

Well, maybe you haven’t tried other things. Have you tried swimming? Have you tried football? Have you tried soccer? Have you tried ping pong? Have you tried other sports? When you try enough things, it is a elimination process, very quickly you would know, you know what, that’s not my thing. For example, I’m a horrible painter, right? I am not a good artist, that’s not my thing, right, I’m horrible with that. I would not have a career in that. In spite, other people might love it, but I can’t even draw like a stick person well, right, my handwriting is not good. So that is not my career, eliminate it very, very quickly, okay, and then for athlete, or sports, and a lot of these different things, that’s not my thing either, so I’m not going to have a career in those professions, so I eliminate that.

So when I was young, my dad actually wanted me to be a lawyer, when I was very young. And I thought, yeah lawyer is my thing, I’m gonna be a lawyer, right, and after I learned a little bit more about it, no, I’m not going to be a lawyer, right. I learned that that’s not my path, it’s the path that my dad wanted for me. Then later on, actually, I wanted to be a firefighter, I still, nowadays, I love firefighting movies, I have an uncle of mine who is a very, very good firefighter, he’s been firefighting his whole life, I always would like to talk with him, and he shared all these stories with me, these just like life altering and life changing stories, and so my uncle was a firefighter, but then I found out that’s not my thing either. And then, once I learned martial art, I though, I am going to be a martial art instructor, that is my calling, I want to open up a little school, and that is what I’m going to do for the rest of my life, because I like to teach, and the problem is, that when I found out that my instructor, my martial art instructor actually couldn’t even make rent, he was struggling with just a few students, I’m like, I love martial arts, but I cannot make a living doing this.

I cannot help my mom doing this. So that doesn’t work either. And I tried many, many different things, I stumbled upon business, I started being a copywriter, and consultant and speaker, and a lot of these different things, and not in a million years could I imagine I would be doing what I’m doing today. It’s only after so many of this zigzag, zigzag and I found my place. You see, in life it’s very important for you to find your place. To find a place, where this is where you belong, this is what you were meant to do.

I believe, and not everyone agrees with me on this, that I believe your career, if your career, you just focus on, I want to do what I love, you will struggle financially. You have to get the money thing out of the way first, so you can have more choice, so you can take that money and invest in yourself. You have to make some money first. And that’s what I did, I wasn’t just, I wasn’t following my passion, I just wanted to make a living. So first, profit. Your career, if your career can make you profit. A decent amount of profit, you have to start with that. You see, in the Asian culture, even in Chinese culture, Chinese doesn’t talk a lot about passion, they work long hours, if you’ve ever been to Asia, they work and they want to make money. In North America, it’s some think the opposite. When I came to Canada, it’s much more, laid back, and say, I want to find my calling, I want to find what’s my gift.

It’s okay I’m struggling financially, I want to find my thing. In Asia it’s like, what the fuck are you talking about. You talk to Asian people, they’re like, you do whatever makes you the most amount of money, like duh. Nothing right or wrong about between both philosophies, but I found that at first, focus on profit. Find something that can make you money. So you get money out of the way so you can focus on what’s important, and that’s life, you get your time back. Then once you’re making good money, if you can also find something that you’re passionate about, that would be good. If you can combine profit, with passion. And if there’s something that you’re passionate about, for example, when I found out that I love teaching, I love speaking, great, I’m passionate about it. I learn, I study, I master the craft, and I get better, and I make more with that. And people pay me more, more, more money doing that. I thought to myself, this is great, I don’t like golfing, I don’t like fishing, that doesn’t interest me, but teaching, I love this. This is my hobby, this is my passion, this is what I love to do, it doesn’t get old.

This is how I can be on stage for days, and I can talk without a script because of that. It’s my passion. So when I can combine passion and profit, guess what, you make more profit, cause you love what you do. And if you love what you do, of course, you get good at what you do, then at the very end, when I hit 30 years old, I found my purpose.

I found that this is what I want to do for the rest of my life. When I know what I do impacts people’s lives. When my father passed away, and I thought to myself, what’s my legacy, what do I want to be known for. Do I want to be known for as, I can imagine it in my funeral, at my funeral, I’m lying down there in my casket.

Do I want people to say, you know what? Dan Lok has made a few dollars. He’s successful financially, he’s a wealthy guy, or do I want people to say, you know what? That man changed my life. And I say, I want people to say, that man changed my life. And I found my purpose, and that’s why I do what I do today. I can combine my purpose, with my passion, and also makes a lot of profit, all into one.

When you can do all that, that’s very, very special. And I’m very, very grateful, I have found my ideal career. Now, my career may not be your career, but start with profit, then maybe through that, you’ll find your passion, then when you know to a point, this passion may become your purpose. That thing you, if you ever get to that, you are very, very lucky person. I am a very, very lucky person. When I can live every day living my purpose, following my passion, and also making a lot of profit, life doesn’t get better than that. So that’s my recommendation, that’s what you need to do. No one can tell you, I cannot tell you, no one can tell you, you’ve got to find your own path. But, that’s my recommendation, that’s how you decide on your career. .

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